When Do You Know

When do you know to let you guard down and just relax and enjoy things? I always have my guard up, I can't help it. I've been hurt, burned, whatever so many times that a wall around my feelings just feels well, natural.

How do you know when to trust someone? Trust is earned, and when he doesn't always do what he says he's going to do, how do you know when to adjust to this and trust that he will do what's right? I always try my best to do what I say I'm going to do. I always call if I say I'm going to, I'm always on time, that's just the kind of person I am. He never calls when he says he's going to. There are two types of time, normal time, and his time, and his time may be hours later than normal time. This is difficult for me. Will this ever change? Or should I adjust to this and look at all the other good things he does?

When do you know when it's right to say we and not just he and I? How long are two people a "he and I" before you become a "we". I never assume anything. I wait for "the talk", the talk that signifies that we are just dating each other. But sometimes other people assume, and how do I respond to that? Do I say, "no, no we are just seeing each other" or just let it slide? But what's the norm for this, two weeks, a month, six months?

When do you know that this thing could be a something? When do you let your doubts melt away and be happy and relaxed? I have so much trouble with this. I never get into a comfort zone, I'm always thinking he's not going to call, and that's going to be the end of that.

When do you know that this could be something great?